I recently stumbled across an acquaintance, who always makes it a point to slur a “bullyish” comment whenever you meet him. On the surface, he tries to act “too-cool-for-school” but then hurls a nasty comment with the clear intention of ruining your mood or your day (if you’re ultra-sensitive)
So at a social event, he came up to me and goes, “hey, I saw your travel photos but why did you choose to go to Azerbaijan? Like, I wouldn’t even go there if somebody paid me to”
(Trying to casually downplay my vacation.)
Thankfully, to me he is pretty transparent as I understand that when someone is being mean-spirited for no reason, they are attempting to conceal an insecurity.
“But you don’t even get out of your sector” I responded to him in a tongue-in-cheek manner. I could’ve said something meaner but I usually try to take the highroad. Plus, I realised that the poor chap must be so doused in envy to have made such a comment in the first place so I was sympathetic to that. Anyhow, yesterday that incident came back flooding into my mind when I posted the cover of the book, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” and he commented, “I’ve actually mastered the art of not giving a fuck but let me know where I can find this book” and I laughed because that was so ironic.
This guy obviously gave TOO MANY FUCKS about everything including “Why is she having a vacation and not me?” along with all the thousand petty things that he chooses to point out to make people uncomfortable.
In a nutshell, the message of the book is this “Life is short and you have got only a limited amount of fucks to give so reserve your fucks for magical shit such as, a transformative weight loss journey, healing your traumas, launching a new biz venture, fixing your relationship with your partner, being kind to others or working on some other great endeavour because when we refuse to give a fuck about important shit, we inevitably end up giving too many pint-sized fucks about a plethora of petty pickles like said jerk”
This book offers a pretty counterintuitive approach to living a good life and I would suggest anybody who hasn’t already mastered this art to read it. I understand that in the modern age, with our cushy lives, it is easy to fall into the trap of giving a fuck about petty matters such as, “Why does Sumaiiya have clearer skin than me?” or “Why is Tassaduq’s job cooler than mine?” hence I believe that this book is Godsent to help one redirect their focus on stuff that ACTUALLY matters.
I believe it’d be a pretty meditative (with a tinge of truck-driverness) daily practice to daily ask oneself “What am I giving a f*ck about today?”